How can you define a happy and healthy relationship? is it enough that you are contented? is enough that you are both happy when your together? or is it enough that you just love one another?. For me in any relationship all efforts counts, every words will make a sense and any feelings must always be valued. But what if no matter what you do or how hard you exert an effort to reach out and to make him/her feel your love nothing seems to matter at all.
This is how I feel right now, I've been in a relationship for one year and eight months and all this time I never felt so appreciated. I know that my girlfriend isn't that showy on the way she feels not unless she's doubting or mad. I'm quite a sensitive guy, very actually. I love her so much, that in every thing I do if it wasn't for her, she'll always be in consideration. Everything she do or say matters to me in fact even just a single pick up line will means a lot to me you can't even imagine how I giggle whenever she does that.
I was too short tempered guy I used to get mad at her as I have said, I was too sensitive even with her words but I was trying my very best not to. I can say that I'm quite romantic I do things just to make her feel loved and most of the time I am being so corny. This is how I love a girl I invest a lot of effort for them. But lately I felt tired of doing this things, which I don't even know if it matters to her. I don't want to open this up to her because once I do everything will be unnatural anymore she'll do things because she have to not because she want it.
I can't say I'm still happy for what we have now, all I know is I love her so much that I couldn't afford to lose her. I don't know if I was just acting too sensitive or if I was really taken for granted. Now I'll still want to take this journey with her and I'll do everything to make it last even more.
This has been too EMO haha have a great weekend everyone god bless and take care lots of love♥___♥
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ReplyDeleteMeow?
all I know is I love her so much that I could afford to lose her<<< i'm not sure if you mean na you COULD or COULDN'T.
ReplyDeletebut, here's an unsolicited advice. Let your heart decide. If the heart keeps beating with her near you, then stay. If not, Try to reassure if it would still beat fast for her. Else, you gotta decide if you're willing to take a risk and look for someone that could make your heart beat runnin away, beating like a drum and it's comin' your way. hehehehe :p
ang isang relasyon ay hindi lang puro sarap. honestly,kailangan meron din'g away. this will help you both na magmature eventually. yun lang hehehe
ReplyDeletebest wishes to yr relationship..
ReplyDeletehmmm, getting emo huh?? that's love and that's relationship.. it can bring you joy and at the same time makes you feel down sometimes..
ReplyDeletewell frankly.. i think you have put in a lot of effort to love her and to get the relationship going..
Deletebut i also think that you are expecting for some returns?? in fact, true love is all about giving and never expect for return.. :)
Deletemaybe you are right, she may have taken things for granted.. but on the other hand, have you thought of what you have been doing so far isn't what she really need??
Deleteit's good to also understand the needs and expectation of each other.. that could most probably that she doesn't even need you to do anything, just spending time with her would already make her happy.. :)
Deletejust my humble opinion not that i am an expert in relationships, hahaha!! have a great day~~ :)
Deletei hear you bro. nakakarelate ako.
ReplyDeletehi mecoy! sige tayo nalang? hahaha CHOS!
ReplyDeletehere's my unsolicited two centavos worth.
"stay if you're happy, leave if you're not"
that simple. this works not just in relationships, but to some other aspects of life as well, especially when deciding/weighing on tougher things. then how'd you know you're still happy? nobody knows except you. listen to your heart and don't fool it.
been in the same dilemma. i have been in a relationship now for 2 years and two months counting. i know i love him but lately i feel some lashes of tiresome and boredom. but i figured out myself that it's just me the problem, not my partner. i was looking for something new, something fresh, something different to remind us about things we used to do when we were in the honeymoon state because i feel like everything now for the past few months seemed routinary.
why not try to go out? i mean, not just go out like doing ordinary date. and while on there, have the courage to tell her about the things in your mind. she needs to know what you're going through.
imagine? she doesn't have any idea how you feel that way. because that is what relationship is about right? you share your partners things (well, not all *devil hehehe kidding)and get through with it together.
she might say "oh, if only i knew. if only you have said it" --> point is, don't pre-conceive things that she might change and be unnatural and all that cause you don't know, right? i believe she'll understood it if you just clearly explained it well.
so ayun lang naman. di naman halatang sobrang relate ako dito noh? hahaha
bye. :) good luck!
Poor thing! Some thing aren't meant to be but hang on in there. Every cloud has a sliver lining - after the rain, the sun will come shining through. Cheers, my friend!
ReplyDeleteYou can talk to her heart to heart and let her know...Baka sakaling magawan ng paraan o 'improvements' kaya sa relationship. just my thought.
ReplyDeletecannot relate here.
ReplyDeleteay lovelovelove. ^_^
ReplyDeletei shall give you my advice mec pag may lovelife na 'ko. as of now, aja na lang muna. hehe. :)
maybe after she read this post she will then realize how lucky she is to have you. Though, at time love comes sacrifice, understanding, and accepting. But in love, it takes two to tango.. so sana makita niya ang effort mo,
ReplyDeleteliked your facebook page :)) hehe
ReplyDeletecheer up ok! dun be emo :) god bless!
Deleteako nalang! hehehehe. joke lang. ano kaba. kung ako siguro naging lalaki, susko! no time for emotion talaga. hehehe
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Idaan na sa maboteng usapan yan! Hehe. Kidding aside, I think you should confront her regarding this. Baka nga naman akala niya ay OK lang sa'yo kaya 'di siya masyado showy.
ReplyDeletesabi nga ng kanta....sometimes love just aint enough XD.. healthy relationships go through difficulties too. what's important i think, is that you always know what matters to the both of you, what makes you really happy (physically together or not)...stuff like that. :) cheer up po.
ReplyDeleteKausapin mo na sya. Gulity ako kasi ganyan ako sa previous relationship ko. I'm sure maayos din yan :)Nakakarelate :P
ReplyDeletecool new header. Hmm you are like SK. always changing blog template and fresh photos. It;s good
ReplyDeletewhatever will be will be. In a relationship there is always give and take
DeleteMust accept the faults as well as the goodness.
DeleteDont try to change or mould the other person into what you expect them to be or else the relationship wont sustain
Deletemeantime have a great day
Deletesorry to know about accidental delete
ReplyDeleteMaybe she isn't just as affectionate as you po. I don't know what to say but I just pray and hope for the happiness of you both. :3
ReplyDeletePag mahal mo talaga ang isang tao you have to love and accept her for who she is and for who she is not. Siguro nga di lang sya showy kaya minsan feeling mo di ka na aapreciate. Mararamdaman mo namn yun kung talagang mahal ka nya. Pero kung parang nababalewala ka na talaga sa kanya, ibang usapan na yun. Kailangan pa din open kayo sa isat isa and have a heart to heart talk. Swerte nya sayo sa mga pinapakita mo sa kanyang pagmamahal! Just wish you both happiness and may your relationship gets stronger everyday!
ReplyDeleteI think it will be best to talk to her and tell her how you feel. Then you can both make little changes to make it a happier relationship again :) Wishing you both the best! :)
ReplyDeleteang bigat naman ng post na ito... anyway i thin its better to talk, ika nga nila wala naman di nadadaan sa isang magandang usapan di ba?
ReplyDeleteMy personal view, we feel happier when we give more and expect the return less.
ReplyDeleteThere's up and down in a relationship, same goes to other area - like schooling, working, family, etc :)
DeleteStay positive and happy blogging!
Deletekapatid... sobra ka lang sa gel umi-emo ka tuloy ha ha ha joke. pinapasaya lang kita. smile! bukas ayos na yan tingnan mo balik kilig ka na naman ;)
ReplyDeletehmm..i guess we face the same thing for now :) patience will win her heart, i believe!
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Oo bata ka pa so just take it easy :)
ReplyDeleteRe: Same here! I always go for mushroom soups as an appetizer before but hen a friend of mine FORCED me to eat a leaf of the salad, I loved it. Since then, I've been obsessing the Caesar salad. lol Thanks for dropping by!
ReplyDeleteMadramang bata. Maganda mong gawin siguro ipabasa sa kanya yung blog post mo na ito para malaman n'ya kung ano ang iyong nararamdaman. ^_^
ReplyDeleteIt's ok dude baka ganun lng talaga siya :) Open communication lang ang sagot jan :)
ReplyDeletedude, there's a huge difference between giving-up and having enough....., in a relationship, hindi lang dapat puro saya, getting is part of it...and the feeling will no just wear off specially when you truly love that person....
ReplyDeleteI pray for your relation to last longer :)
Aww </3 This post is full of drama too. I don't know if your girl is not really into putting to words what she feels for you or what. But you know, some girls are too showy, some are really clingy and the others? Well they have their own way to show their love :) In your case that you guys reach 1 yr and 8 mos, in that span isn`t your girl make you feel her love for you? Maybe you just want her to exert more effort in doing it or you envy some couples whenever you see them so sweet and you ask yourself why is your girl not doing that to you. Better yet, ask her if she still love you. You never know what's on her mind. But if nothing has changed between the two of you like you're still in good terms you must believe she loves you :) Like what you have said, you'll do anything to make your relationship last longer. Mecoy, don't do something that you're going to regret in the end :)
ReplyDeleteYou should talk to her.
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