Well I know for a fact that February is far at reach and valentines is not even close a bit, but for today the topic I would like to discuss for this post is about such thing or as a movie and a song said "this crazy little thing we called love". I came up with this idea as I was observing people around me, and the discussions we had with regards to this.
First let me ask you this popular question people intend to ask,
Who would you choose, a person whom you love but doesn't love you back, or that person who loves you whom you can't fully love. Or in simpler term, would you rather love than to be loved or to be loved than to love.
If you answered first one, I could say that you are one of those people who believes in a fairytale kind of love. Or those people who sacrifices a lot to get hold on the feelings you and your partner has. You can be a masochist lover or a sacrificial partner.
On the other way around, If you choose the second option you are a wise lover. And you've learned that loving yourself before others is essential to maintain yourself as is. You were the kind of lover who has pride and wise enough to know when to hold on and to let go.
On these scenarios, we can't say that the other was not right, because in love there's no such thing as wrong, every kind of love affair is worth the risk and worth fighting for and it will always depends on those who were involved.
Moving on, another famous line when it comes to such topic is, "love is blind", for me, I never really believe in such saying. If love is blind how would you be able to find someone in the first place haha, but seriously, we are wise enough to see what those people we love has, but it's just that we intend to look on what they has and not what is lacking on them, in fact even a tiny piece of goodness in oneself can be enough reason for him/her to be loved. Again love is not blind, it actually makes you see the good in others.
In connection to this, there are some lovers whom was being hurt but cannot do anything but to stay,if the love was built among two people even though one lost it the other might not, and in this scenario there will be two option, it's either took the courage to walk away or wait for the time when your heart felt so tired coz that will be the only time when you'll be able to let go.
As for the long term lovers( like me and my gf), I know there would come a time when the magic is isn't there anymore, that it was not fun as it was before. Keep in mind that when that magic is gone, it doesn't necessarily means the love was gone as well. In this case one must initiate to do something to burst what the both of you still has, and also the other one must respond and do his/her part too, coz love won't work if there's only one person fighting for it to last.
Well, If I were to list down the things that were essential for love here would be the items I think both parties must posses:
First thing is acceptance, accept the fact that his/her world doesn't revolves around you, accept the fact that he/she has to say on how the relationship must pursue and most importantly accept each difference you has. Adjust for the difference and cherish the similarities that how it must work.
Trust, it is also something both of you must have for each other, however trust doesn't comes alone it must come with loyalty as well. Trust and loyalty must never be apart. Never waste trust he/she has for you and appreciate loyalty through trust.
Sacrifice, well love never end in a happily ever after, love is a working process, and it must take a step higher and higher as you go along. It must never be stuck on a state which will make the love you have unworthy, and for you to be able to make your love grows both of you must sacrifice.
Love is too broad to ponder that's why it was never meant for us to Analise but to be felt, cherished and shared.